Tempered Anvil

Men's Work. Personal Development. Real Accountability.

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Twenty years of facilitation, accountability groups, and honest conversation — now in one place. For men who are done performing and ready to build something real.

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About Matthew

Twenty years in. Not selling it. Living it.

I got sober. I went through a divorce. I sat in men's groups when I didn't want to, and I kept showing up anyway. Not because I had it figured out — because I didn't.

What I built over twenty years of facilitating real groups is a methodology grounded in accountability, embodied presence, and honest feedback. No hustle culture. No therapy-speak. No manufactured vulnerability.

Tempered Anvil is where that work lives. Come as you are.

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How to Work Together

Six ways in. All of them honest.

Presence Sessions

1:1 · Open to All

Embodied, facilitated sessions focused on presence, authentic communication, and honest self-examination. Matthew's most direct offering.

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Men's Group

Monthly · Application

A structured, Matthew-led group meeting twice a month. Application required. Built for men who want accountability, not performance.

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Online Classes

Audio · Free & Paid

Timed lesson series on masculinity, relationships, parenting, and more. Most content is free. Start where you are.

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Men's Group Startup Kit

$150 · One-time

Matthew matches you into a new group, leads your first session, and steps back. Everything you need to run it yourselves, plus a one-month check-in.

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General Consultation

Flexible

For facilitators, organizations, or anyone who doesn't fit a standard offering. Strategic, direct, and priced on what you actually need.

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Hernia Support

Virtual · Peer Support

Peer guidance navigating inguinal hernia repair, drawn from Matthew's own experience. Not medical advice — honest experience.

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Not ready to commit? Start by showing up.

The Tempered Anvil Discord is free and open to everyone. Come listen, ask questions, and see what this work is actually about before you invest anything.

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