About Matthew
Twenty years of doing the work, not talking about it.
I'm a men's group facilitator based in Durango, Colorado. I've been doing this work for over two decades — in church basements, community centers, living rooms, and now online. What follows is the honest version.
First group. Didn't know what I was doing.
I walked into my first men's group out of desperation, not curiosity. What I found there changed the trajectory of everything — not because it was perfect, but because it was honest. I started facilitating not long after.
Building the methodology.
Ten years of running groups in different formats, different cities, different demographics. Thousands of hours of listening, holding space, and figuring out what actually works versus what just feels good in the moment.
Sobriety.
Got sober. This wasn't a dramatic rock-bottom story — it was quieter and harder than that. It changed how I show up in rooms. You can't facilitate authenticity from behind a performance.
Divorce.
The marriage ended. I did the same thing I tell men in my groups to do: I didn't perform my way through it. I sat with the reality, made amends where I owed them, and kept moving. This is where the work gets tested.
Durango. YouTube. Tempered Anvil.
Settled in Durango, Colorado. Started putting the work online — first on YouTube, then building this platform. The goal isn't scale for its own sake. It's making 20+ years of methodology available to men who need it and won't find it in a self-help aisle.
What I believe about men's work.
Most men are walking around performing a version of themselves they think is expected. Not because they're dishonest — because nobody ever showed them a different way.
Men's groups, done right, are one of the most efficient ways to change that. Not group therapy. Not weekend retreats. A regular room of men who hold each other accountable without agenda, drama, or hierarchy.
My job is to build that room — and then help other men build their own. Not to be needed. To become unnecessary.
What this isn't.
- It's not hustle culture rebadged as masculinity.
- It's not therapy. (I'm not a therapist.)
- It's not a brotherhood that requires you to agree with everything I say.
- It's not a substitute for professional mental health support when that's what you need.
- It's not the only way. It's one way that works.
Ready to see what the work looks like?
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